Transition Is Difficult
Choosing the right option is just winning half the battle. The other half is emotionally preparing for the move of your loved one. The transition from a place where your loved one has stayed for years to a senior living facility is not an easy one. There is always that apprehension about how your loved one will adjust to the new environment. It can also be an emotional time as your loved ones might start feeling guilty that they are becoming a burden. They may go into denial that their current living situation no longer suits their needs.
The caregiver may also feel guilty – that they should be solely taking care of their loved one. The caregiver has to consider if they are compromising their own quality of life while devoting their time and energy to the care of their loved one. Sometimes, it might be overwhelming for a single person. It may be better for both the loved one and the caregiver that a full team of professionals at a facility is looking after them.
How To Deal With It
It is OK to take a step back and take some time before making this decision. We suggest writing down your questions on a piece of paper. It is important to realize that you are not alone. Eventually, we all have to go through this incredibly challenging process. We also suggest talking this out with friends and family – get their feedback.
Caregivers should visit the community with their loved ones and take a tour of the facility. At the Del Monte Assisted living, we encourage you to schedule a tour to see the facility yourself. Keep that list of questions handy and speak to an advisor. Also speak to the residents and hear how they handled the transition and how they are faring now as compared to their previous living conditions. Share the story of your loved one with the other residents. This will help to create a bond with the other residents and to make the transition easier.
What is important is to understand and discuss that this move is for the benefit of your loved one. That they will be living a better, safer life at the facility than at their current situation.
What is important is to understand and discuss that this move is for the benefit of your loved one. That they will be living a better and safer life at the facility than their current situation.
Preparing For The Move
There are a few things you can do while preparing for the move. You can schedule a time with us to move in the belongings of your loved one before he or she shifts into the facility.
You can arrange the apartment with your loved one’s favorite belongings so that the move becomes comfortable for them. Seeing their favorite items and memorabilia in the new place will definitely help them adjust to the new environment quickly. We, at Del Monte Assisted living, can certainly help you with this transition. After all, we have been doing this for the last 37 years.
Items To Bring
There are some basic items that you can bring for your loved one when they are moving. These include
- Basic furniture items that they are used to, like Sofa, chairs, nightstand, lamps and coffee table
- Decor items like clock, paintings, keep-sakes on display, picture-frames etc.
- Toiletries like toothbrush, toothpaste, deodorant, perfumes, grooming sets, shaving kits, make-up items, soap/shampoo.
- Food items for snacking that your loved ones like. They can include their favorite drinks, snack packs/bars or any special items that they like to eat
- Their favorite clothing items like their sleepwear, jackets, formal and casual cloth items etc.
- We also suggest books, magazines, radio etc – anything that they would like to enjoy while at Del Monte Assisted living.
Also we encourage you to visit more frequently initially and to make the transition more seamless. Your regular visits will be a comforting factor for your loved one as it will make them feel connected to the people that matter the most: their family and friends. However, it is important to encourage your loved one to adjust to their new environment. It can be a lot to take, shifting from one way of life to another. It’s important that they still feel they have agency in the move. So let them make choices that will make the transition easier for them. It is a trying part in one’s life. Be sure to be sensitive to that fact. Also, please be mindful that if you visit too frequently, that might impede their transition as it will make them continue to be focused on you and the old times instead of trying to adjust to the new environment. Also, please don’t hesitate to speak to the staff on every visit to find out how your loved one is adjusting to their new place and find out how you can help the staff to make this transition smoother.